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Wednesday, June 15, 2016

Marriage Magic Jelly Bean

Last April 10, 2016, I got married to my boyfriend of 6 years ++.


The age old question people ask, how is married life? is it any different from being boyfriend-girlfriend?


My answer is always no - aside from the fact that I have to maintain our house, do chores, write a different surname and cook meals.

Marriage is not a magic jelly bean that when eaten, suddenly changes your relationship. Marriage will not take away your relationship problems, it will not take away the things your partner does that annoy you. It will most definitely not make your partner surprisingly more responsible than what he was before. On the same note, marriage is not an automatic blind fold that will surprisingly remove his/her desire to flirt, be with other men or girls.


If so, what change does marriage bring?


First, let's define marriage. Marriage in a general sense is the utmost commitment one can publicly do for his or her partner. Marriage is declaring to everyone (including the law) that this is the man or woman I've chosen to be with for the rest of my life. Take note of the word CHOSEN.


Marriage is beautiful, but it does not change your mindset, your view of things or even your decision making. Marriage does not change anything about you - only your civil status.


Reality check. It is you that SHOULD change. Marriage will not MAKE you change, it's just a ceremony, it's YOU that should activate and decide to change.


You should realize that your world does not revolve around just you anymore instead it should revolve around the two of you. You have to always decide to think of your partner in any decision that you will be making whether good or bad. Marriage is the ceremony and you are the mindset changer.


Marriage does not magically make you monogamous or always in love with your partner. You're human, you are you. It is you who has to decide to be monogamous, it is you who has to decide to stay in love with your partner, to stay committed, to be loyal, to be understanding, to work each and every issue out even when you feel like giving up.


Yes, it's a series of decisions that you have to make everyday. The classic reason people give when divorcing or separating is "I fell out of love." Falling out of love translated means you decided to stop loving, you decided to stop making things work, you decided to stop forgiving.


Love is hard work, Marriage is hard work but both reap beautiful things.

Never forget to love and choose to love each other everyday.

xx,
Mel

Monday, November 17, 2014

Clothes buffet Big Reveal


It's my time to share my clothes buffet experience 


I was sooo excited for this event and was literally counting down to 8:20PM of oct 17 which was my "wave" schedule. Im sad to say that the 2k I paid for was not worth it at all!! While preparing my mind pre-event i was a bit panicky because i didn't know how to get everything i want and put it inside the bag in just 15 mins. it wasn't like that at all. I was finished looking through ALL the racks, and i didn't even like anything. I checked the clock and i still have 10 mins left!! My worry on the actual event is that i wont be taking home anything! i browsed the racks once again and tried to "shop" and take the items i "liked" at the very least. What bothers me the most is that, i saw people posting about what they got and there were no items like that AT ALL during our wave. i was looking at the people i was with during the wave and nobody had the look of thrill on their faces. from what i saw, almost everybody was disappointed. Notice also that i didn't even take photos of the clothes i got. I know i took the later wave, but we paid the same amount. We should be given the same no. of choices too! The quality of the clothes left really suck. All items were branded but they looked old and cheap. Definitely not recommending this event to anyone.

If you really want to try it out when they set up something like this again, I would recommend the VERY FIRST WAVE ;)

xx,
Mel

Unspoken truth about Selling at Zalora

I've been with Zalora Marketplace for around 2-3 months + now and I want to share my experience with you.

I was very excited because Zalora is somewhat of a big name and quite a number of people are aware of the said website. I felt a great honor when their marketing executive contacted me and wanted to meet with me and carry our brand.
After discussing all the benefits and what the contract entails, I was very excited and my answer is a 101% yes. *I won't be disclosing details of the contract*

Alas! This amazing opportunity is finally at my grasp when I officially said yes and signed the contract (I appreciated the marketing executive a lot because she was very understanding and flexible in scheduling the training and all)

On-boarding was okay, we spent few hours learning the seller center which is where sellers upload pictures, stocks, descriptions etc. Now my shop is ALL SET.

I tried to check in with the seller center every so often until I got tired because nobody was ordering. It dawned upon me - how will customers know your existence just by visiting zalora? (the answer is they won't).

Days, weeks, months went buy and I'm happy to report that there are customers who bought almost everyday but the sad thing was, far from what I expected, there was not much of a market in Zalora since they don't know your brand, the question still remains - "how will they search your brand if they don't know you exist?"

During the training a lot of promises or rather "promising" words were let out and we (or at least I) had the impression or inkling that somehow zalora will look for a way to promote new brands or make your brand known (well nothing like that happened haha).

The things I said above are arguably dependent on situation, your product, sales that season or what customers in Zalora are looking for, but the things I will expound on below are quite different.

Here's the process you go through when you are a marketplace seller. What happens is, you are informed when somebody orders (thru email/sellercenter). The next thing you have to do is set the status to ready so that someone will come in the next day and pick up the items then after which they deliver it to the customer/s - all well and simple. The problem is (and mind that this happened more than thrice already) sometimes, well a lot of times, it takes more than 2 days before the courier actually picks up the items at our place. Literally, I have shipment plastics piling up and falling down because (just this week) it took FIVE FREAKING DAYS before the courier picked the items up. Just imagine what the buyers feel while waiting for their delayed package.

As we all know, Zalora offers such flexible terms when it comes to shopping like free returns (YES FREE RETURN NO MATTER WHAT YOUR REASON IS) and Cash on Delivery. While these privileges are great when you're the buyer, it's not good when you're the seller (like me). Why?

1. CASH ON DELIVERY.
While this item seems harmless to us and you ask (what's the problem? instead of bank transfer or Credit card payment we just pay when we receive the item) well yes that's fine when it's simply stated like this but the problem here is, since the customer did not pay for the item yet, they could reject it or not show up at all when the delivery comes in because they changed their minds or something. The item gets returned to Zalora and sellers have to pay a shipping fee so that these items will be returned to us. (don't even mention the mess up in our inventory and the waste of a perfectly good item because we won't be getting it back for more than a month or so!)

2. FREE RETURN - No matter what the reason is
Again, while this is great for the consumers, and in an ideal world where customers are decisive and reasonable - I'm also okay with this. It's fine if customers return it because it is damaged or the size is wrong but what the hell! Sometimes the reason for return is (test deliver) What?! I've wasted time making the item, printing the waybill info (well with that being said, ink is expensive!), and packing the item!
I'll give you a sample scenario of why I think Free return is a problem:
Customer A buys an item from Zalora under Shop ABC - click click click, CHECKOUT! after that the customer continues to browse and sees something he/she likes better - being indecisive as we are humans, this customer decides to wait for the item to be delivered and when he/she gets the item, he/she will return it (well what the hell, it's easy to return cause it's free!) and purchase the other item they want. While reading this you may think, what's wrong with this? Well what's wrong here is, it's a bunch of hassle for the sellers like me. Aside from wasting our inventory, we have to pay a shipping fee so that the items will be returned to us. Also we don't get the returned items right away! I've waited for more than 2 months now and most of the returned items are not yet with me - talk about waste of inventory.

What happens now?
I'm still part of Zalora and while we are allowed to terminate the contract any time, I think I'll stick around just until the end of my contract.

Bottom line:
I don't feel that it's worth it. I expected a whole lot more from Zalora and they did not live up to my expectations. The simple fact that items purchased lies for up to 5 days in our place waiting to be picked up feels so sloppy. I'm letting you in a big secret, you won't earn much either - I get a whole lot more sales in my own online shop than on Zalora (like a week = 1 month in zalora). I'm not sure if it's just pumped up flowery words but they mentioned that I was one of the top sellers last month and I was very surprised because I felt like the sales was disappointing.

Am I saying don't sell with them? Not at all. I just want you to be informed. It's a good experience and if you want to, go ahead and try it out. This is just my experience, maybe it'll be different for you ;)

xx,
Mel


Sunday, August 11, 2013

Vanilla Cupcake and more :)









I had the pleasure of eating at Vanilla Cupcake, Trinoma branch.
I was surprised to see that they added a lot of new food choices
on their menu. Last time I checked they only had 2-3 dishes,
now, I can't even count :)

I had the Chicken Parmigiana and my boyfriend had the Pork
BBQ Ribs :) My dish costs 185 and his 190.
We had the same comment about the food - it was fine.
Nothing special really, not bad but not really good either.

If asked, I would definitely go back because I felt great eating there.
Even though the food was just right, the place made me feel like
I was in a dream land :) Not to mention that their cupcakes
are awesome!:) My favorite is the Vanilla cupcake!:)

Oh, by the way! their Vanilla iced tea tastes AWESOME <3
Come visit Vanilla Cupcake now and enjoy the place ;)

xx,
Mel 

Saturday, August 3, 2013

Stacker's Burger :) Yey or nay?



While the picture in the menu makes your mouth water, let me give you somewhat of a disclaimer.
I and few of my friends went south few days ago to visit our friends that lived there. We went to
Alabang Town Center and decided to eat at Stacker's.

Upon looking at the menu, the picture of the high stacked burgers made our
mouths water but the burgers here are kind of pricey. A single patty burger costs around
180+, going double patty will cost you around 230 +.

I ordered the single patty Cajun burger(the picture shown above). It was
really, really yummy. The mix of salsa-like prepared tomato and saltiness of the burger patty
made a great mix but the downside here is the serving is too small (I wasn't even close
to being full).
When you order the double patty (which is very costly) you'll be a little more
satisfied.

If you're ready to spend near P300 for a burger then go right ahead :)
There burgers taste great but it comes at a high price ;)

xx,
Mel :)